Someone asked what ext2 driver (commercial) that I've found -
www.paragon.ru - good luck reading russian. This 98/ME/2k driver seems to support ext3 also. I'm not 100% sure that it supports R/W, but I think it does.
I'm not sure why, but I wasn't able to format all 160 GB with fat32 before, but now in Win2k I can. I unfortunately will loose any permissions capability, but this seems to work ok and since this is a personal computer it really doesn't matter.
Thanks for all your suggestions
Jason